Developing and maintaining healthy relationships between family, friends, co-workers, and colleagues can be difficult sometimes due to people busy schedule, or even where people may live. It is good to have a relationship or partnership in your personal and professional life. In a professional relationship it is vital that co-workers get along and can depend on one another for moral support and help. In a personal relationship it is important for loved ones to be there for one another in their time of happiness, joy, pain and/or sorrow to have someone to talk to.
Relationships are important to me because growing up I really did not have that strong, healthy and positive relationship with my biological mother and my siblings. I always wanted to establish that relationship with her and it happened about a couple of years before she passed away in 2013. Within our relationship I was able to talk to her about anything ranging from church, school or marriage. She always had encouraging words to give to me to make me feel better. I miss being able to talk to her about things because I feel like I have no one else whom I can talk too. I have six siblings and I love them all dearly but I have one brother who I connect with the most or have a more healthy relationship with. I love all my siblings but we have a better bond and connection than everyone else. Although he lives in Florida, I talk to him more than I talk to the ones who live in the same city as I do. We talk about our families, God and church, our jobs and finances. My brother Matthew is my brother whom I love and adore and miss very much.
My Mother Dorethea Dobson My Brother Matthew
I have a great relationship with my husband, son and my god mom Rachel. I have been married to my husband for almost 13 years and we have been through some ups and downs and still are being faced with obstacles in our lives. He has been my backbone and support throughout my life. We met in high school and he has been there for me every since. I was in foster care when we met but that did not stop our love for one another. He is truly an amazing person. He is someone who I can talk to about my day at work, problems with my health and he is my biggest supporter in me going back to school to get my Master’s. What has kept our relationship strong is our faith in God, communication, trustworthiness and loyalty to one another.
My son is my pride and joy and he means everything to me. I love the relationship that we have because I am able to give him that unconditional love that I was lacking when I was a child. He keeps me going and puts a smile on my face and warms my heart when he comes to me out of the blue and says “Mommy, I love you.” He is my motivation and inspiration to be a better person in life. Although he may be young in age he is still a reason as to why I am the way I am today.
My Son Marquez AKA “Turbo”
My godmother Rachel is a very bright, intelligent and wonderful woman. I have known her for almost twenty years. She has always been there for me through thick and thin. She has always encouraged me to do better and be better in life. From the beginning she has always treated me as though I was one of her own. I can call on her anytime and just talk to her about anything. The relationship that we have can never be broken. We may not talk all the time but not a day goes by where I do not receive a text from her telling me that she loves me and how proud of me she is. I try to text her every morning to tell her that I love her and for her to have a blessed day. I call her ma and she has been nothing but supportive of me going back to school as well. I told her that I do not think that I can make it trying to get my Master’s and that I wanted to give up and quit. She told me that “Quitting is not an option and that I can not give up.” I found strength in her words. What helps us to maintain our relationship is the love and bond that we have with one another. I love her just as if she was my mother. I do things for her, when she is down and out I lift her spirit.
My godmom Rachel
Challenges to developing and maintaining relationships that I have experienced over time would be communication, not passing judgment or being bias towards someone and establishing a rapport with families, friends and loved ones. When developing relationships it is easy to pass judgment on someone just by the way they look or who they associate themselves with. As professionals it is important to make all families feel welcomed regardless of race, ethnicity, religion, or SES background. I have also learned that in personal and professional relationships that communication is the key to keep a relationship healthy.
Special characteristics of relationships that can make a partnership would be being supportive and open to new ideas from others. Working together and collaborating on different ideas to run a smooth and successful class with the child being the focus of attention.
As an early childhood professional I have learned to treat people as to how I would like to be treated. I like to be treated with respect and not pushed to the side and being judged by others. I have learned that no matter what I may be going through that I need to put my differences to the side in order to be that effective early childhood professional that I am more than capable of being. My experiences has taught me that there are going to be rough patches but working together and not against one another will make going through the rough patches together a lot smoother.