Creating Affirming Environments

9d068f58a2da4fc776d27fbc64cae97aThere will be a built on ramp for any person that may be confined to a wheelchair or have any other disability. Upon entering in my family childcare home, the parents will be greeted by a staff member or myself. “Children must feel safe, loved, and nurtured to develop the basic trust they need for healthy development” (Derman-Sparks & Edwards, 2010, p.52).  There will be a notebook for the parents to sign in and sign out before entering and exiting the facility. In the front entrance on the left side of the wall will be a bulletin board full of information such as lesson plan, daily schedule, activities, upcoming events, and any other pertinent information that the par
ents need to be aware of. The information will be written in various languages that
is presented in the family childcare home. This will help families to feel like their home language is vital. There will also be a bigger board that will display pictures of each family. Under each child’s family picture will be a small tray with their name on it and a tray with my name on it as well. These trays will be for correspondence and other documents to exchange between parents and myself.

couchThere will be a calming/safe place area that will be for the children that may have a hard time transitioning from their parent in a more content way. Sometimes parents do not have a lot of time to comfort their crying child, but the same time the parents want to know that their child is in good hands and feels comfortable leaving them in their emotional state. In this area there will be a sofa, with pillows, books, and stuffed animals. This is vital because it will serve as a way for the children to express their emotions in a more constructive way. For instance, a child may be upset and crying, the teacher/educator will not stop the child from crying, but will allow him or to express their emotions. Eventually the child will stop crying and calm down, and will join the class when they are ready (Laureate Education, Inc., 2011).

There will be another room that will be set up for group or rug time. The room will be painted in a bright color with educational and learning tools posted on the walls as well.circle time This is where the students and the teachers will come together and go over their good morning songs, read stories, meet and greet, and also have small conversations. Parents will be allowed to sit in during this time if they wish to do so. In the media segment Castillo talks about the importance of circle or group time because it is an important part of their day where the children are allowed to converse with one another and the parents can participate as well and this will generate a partnersbookcaseship between the parents and educators (Laureate Education, Inc., 2011). There will be two book cases that will have books that represents different ethnicities, cultures, genders, families, and disabilities. This will allow children to see themselves and others
that are portrayed in the books. There will also be pictures of the same thing displayed in this room as well. The children will learn how to count, say their shapes and colors in Spanish as well as any other language that may be represented in the class. This will support all the children and help them to appreciate one another home languages.

There will be a large room that will serve the interest areas that will be the learning centers. The interest areas that will be represented are blocks, music, dramatic play, manipulatives, art, reading and writing, sand/water, and math/discovery. Each center will be developmentally appropriate for each group that will be in the class. All shelves and containers will be labeled and have a picture to go with it so each child knows what is what and where it belongs. The shelves will be at the appropriate height for each age group.  Block-Area-300x155In the block center will be foam blocks, wooden blocks, cardboard blocks, soft blocks, community workers, people with disabilities, and animals. In the dramatic play area will have a diverse mixture of dolls that will include race, ethnicities, gender, and religions if possible. I will include dolls that will have physical challenges that include but not limited to dolls in wheel chairs, hearing impaired or wearing leg braces (Derman-Sparks & Edwards, 2010). Children should be exposed to the differences in people because when they become a part of the real world they will see people with disabilities and not be alarmed because they were introduced to it in their class. There will be dress up clothes that will include different community workers, different cultures, props for both genders. “Cooking tools and empty food containers from the children’s families are included, as well as plastic food from various cultures” (Derman-Sparks & Edwards, 2010, p. 52). In the manipulative center or table top toys will be blocks, legos and puzzles. Derman-Sparks and Edwards (2010) states “these must be separated from their packaging, which often portrays stereotypes” (p. 52). In the art center there will be a variety of art supplies ranging from different colors of construction paper, glue sticks, popsicle sticks, different types of paint (watercolor, finger, tempera), paint brushes, modeling clay play dough, to magazines, crayons, and markers. In the reading and writing center will be paper, pencils, dry erase boards, an easel, books, flash cards, letter tiles, and other appropriate materials. The sand/water will have items that will pertain to the theme for the week or month whether it is a beach theme, under the sea theme, or zoo theme. The math/discovery center will have pictures, magnifying glamusic time 013sses, money, dominos, file folder games, farm animals, dinosaurs, bear counters and so much more. In the music area will be music of various cultures,
streamers, different instruments, CD’s that represents the
children’s home language, drums, and maracas. This area is important because each child be exposed to music of and from their own culture (Derman-Sparks & Edwards, 2010).

The educational and learning setting would also contain a strengths-based viewpoint of educating, that develops the knowledge that the children already have upon entering into the program and what thsocial justiceey are avid about. Topics such as social justice and diversity will be taught along with, conflict management and resolution, and learning how to perceive one’s own thinking. In learning about different cultures and religions family traditions, holiday traditions, and celebrations will not be the only way to learn about the different cultures and religions that are represented within in the class and those that are not in the class. In doing this, it is an excellent way for teachers to avoid the tourist curriculum. “In a tourist curriculum, instead of making diversity a normal part of the onartifactsgoing, daily curriculum, activities about “other” cultural groups occur only once in a while, to celebrate a holiday, to enjoy a special food, or to welcome a one-time guest” (Derman-Sparks & Edwards, 2010, p. 48).  I will also display in the
classroom a designated spot were families can bring in different items that represent their family and culture (Laureate Education, Inc., 2011).

Off from the kitchen will be a room set up for the children to eat their breakfast, lunch, and snack. The children will be eating nutrifood 2tional food and the appropriate serving. Children will have the opportunity to explore and be introduced to n
ew foods from different cultures. This is a great way to get children to eat food that is different from their culture and what they are used to eating. Different pictures of foods will be
displayed around the room along with different cookware and utensils that different cultures use.

The rationality of my choice would be that I will be making the invisible visible in a sense that children and their families who rarely see their culture represented will have that opportunity in my family childcare home. Every family will be represented within the class and that will help and incorporate the feel of belonging and establishing a partnership and relationship. No one will be excluded but included. “Relationships and interactions with children and families, the visual and material environment, and the daily curriculum all come together to create the anti-bias learning community” (Derman-Sparks & Edwards, 2010, p. 51).

References

Derman-Sparks, L., & Edwards, J.O. (2010).  Anti-bias education for young children and ourselves.  Washington, DC: National Association for the Education of Young Children

Laureate Education, Inc., (2011).  Strategies for working with diverse children: Welcome to anti-bias learning community. Baltimore, MD: Author

What I Have Learned

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One hope that I have when thinking about working with children and families is to expose them to the different diversity that is within this world. I would hope and pray that I will be able to help the children and their families grow a deeper understanding and knowledge of differences in each individual and to have an appreciation for all people. I also hope that families would learn how to embrace their differences and cultures and be more open in sharing their cultures, rituals, values, and beliefs with other children and families with in 1585295626_1340580375the classroom setting. In doing this it can help enclose the gap between educators and families, help educate other families and children, bring the community in unity, and use as a teaching instrument in realizing and understanding accepting everyone. My overall hope is to make each family feel loved, valued, comfortable, and respected within the classroom in learning who they are and also let them know that I am teachable as well.

One goal I would like to set for the early childhood Diversity-Embracefield related to diversity, equity, and social justice would be to educate and provide teachers with more courses and/or training in diversity. As early childhood professionals we need to stay abreast on current trends as well as new notions or concepts so that we can edify our students to the finest of our abilities and to their fullest potential. I will also like to stay up-to-date in anti-bias education and see it incorporated more into classrooms. In staying current on the latest trends and issues of the world, I will be able to not only educate myself, but my students and fellow colleagues as well.

thankYouKidsI would like to say thank you to my colleagues for all of your support throughout this course through the discussion boards, and blog post. Not only have you helped me grow as an individual, mother, and educator, you have helped me grow as a person. I appreciate all of the comments that were posted on my discussion posts as well as blog, I read each and every comment and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for your feedback. This has not been an easy journey for me but because of your support, I have been able to strive a little further. May we continue to learn and grow together as we move into our next course. I pray for your future success as you continue your educational journey at Walden University.

Last, but certainly not least, I want to thank you, Dr. Kien for all your feedback and promptthank-you-so-much-for-your-support-god-bless-you-dr-kien-2
replies to my mass of emails I have been sending you throughout the course. You are truly a great instructor. I have enjoyed have you teach me and encouraging me to dig deep within myself and find out who I truly am and be free to express it through my work. I appreciate your words of encouragement, your corrections throughout my work, and most of all your understanding and knowledge of the information presented in this course.

“We Don’t Say Those Words in Class”

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On this past week, we have been learning about physical abilities and physical characteristics, and race and ethnicity. People who show ableism has prejudice and discriminates against those who have emotional, developmental, physical and mental disabilities (Laureate Education Inc., 2011). Racism and ethnocentrism is discrimination towards a person because of their skin color or ethnic background (Laureate Education Inc., 2011).

I remember a time when I got a phone call from my son’s teacher about a month or so ago. I thought to myself, what has he done now? Well the teacher began to let me know that they were working on inclusion in the classroom with children with physical abilities and physical characteristics. On this particular day a little boy was in his class, and the young boy had some developmental delays and he would drool from the mouth. Well my son evidently thought it was funny to pick on this little boy and said “ill he nasty because he keeps spitting from his mouth” and he was making fun of the little boy who could not help 4af87f8be3021878c3867aa30d633b72himself. The teacher told me that she told him that it was not nice and that, we do not talk about our friends like that. I was asked to speak with him on the phone and I did. I asked him why would he pick on someone who was different from him. I let him know that what he did was wrong and although this was something that he was not use to, it is normal and that it may be other times he may see something similar. I told him next time instead of picking just let the teacher know and she can take care of the little boy. Because of his behavior he had to move his clip down from green to yellow. His teacher let me know that this type of behavior was not acceptable. This encounter put me in the waking up part of Harro (2008) Cycle of Liberation due to the fact that my son knew better to do what he did but yet he did. Children should be exposed to different pictures of children and older people that has a disability so that when they see one in person they will not be so alarmed. As educators it is our job to ensure that every child is depicted in the class in some kind of way be it through pictures, books, and/or toys. Derman-Sparks and Edwards (2010) states “all children need teachers who make sure that people with disabilities are visible in their learning environment: in pictures and posters on the wall, in toys and books, in program staff, and in their community” (p. 125).

I also have a girlfriend who said she had to get on her niece and nephew once or twice because they were staring and pointing at a homeless man who was standing on the corner1645653814_1192e51414_m with one leg. She said they were not picking but were curious and inquisitive as to why the man was like that and why was he standing and holding a sign. “Children’s behaviors such as staring or pointing at a person with a disability are not uncommon and usually indicate curiosity” (Derman-Sparks, & Edwards, 2010, p. 129). She said she told them that she did not know why he only had one leg or why he was on the corner. However, she did tell them that sometimes in life we fall short and situations come up to where we are unable to keep things that we once owned. She let them know that he was homeless because of the sign that he was holding that said “homeless, please help. God Bless.”

The messages that might have been communicated to either of the children are that it is not okay to talk about or pick on others because it is not nice. It might have even been communicated through a hidden message which is the golden rule; do unto to others as you would have them do unto you. “An anti-bias classroom encourages children to be open about their questions, ideas, and feelings about themselves and others” (Derman-Sparks, & Edwards, 2010, p. 129).

An anti-bias teacher would have used that moment with the child as a teachable moment and let the child know that we are all different and some more so than others. The teacher would let the child know that what he said hurt the other child’s feelings and that he did not like it. Derman-Sparks and Edwards (2010) states “to foster an open and safe environment, do not criticize children for noticing and asking questions about differences” (p.129).

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References

Derman-Sparks, L., & Olsen Edwards, J. (2010). Anti-bias education for young children and ourselves. Washington, DC: NAEYC.

Harro, B. (2010). The cycle of liberation. In M. Adams, W. Blumenfeld, C. Castaneda, H. W. Hackman, M. L. Peters, & X. Zuniga (Eds.), Readings for diversity and social justice(Figure 7.1 on p. 53, 2nd ed.). New York, NY: Routledge.

Laureate Education (Producer). (2011.). Start seeing diversity: Physical ability and characteristics [Video file]. Retrieved https://class.waldenu.edu/webapps/blackboard/content/listContent.jsp?course_id=_15511834_1&content_id=_34836210_1

Laureate Education (Producer). (2011.). Start seeing diversity: Race/ethnicity [Video file]. Retrieved https://class.waldenu.edu/webapps/blackboard/content/listContent.jsp?course_id=_15511834_1&content_id=_34836210_1

Gender, Gender Identity, and Sexual Orientation

attitude-homophobiaIn this day and time, we are so caught up in the traditional ways of how a family should be formed which is with the mom, dad, child(ren) and maybe a pet. Some people fail to realize or even accept that there are foster homes, children living with their grandparents, group homes, legal custodianship, single mom or dad and then families that are made up of the LGBT community. Many of these families are more acceptable than those that are from a LGBT family. There are more books that represent the traditional families more so those that relate to gay and lesbian families. There are some books that are out that can be read to children to help them all-familiesunderstand that some children have two moms or two dads. In the stores especially in the toy department everything is separated by gender. There is the fighting, legos, swords, boy colored toys for the boys and the pink, dolls, Barbie cars, tutu’s, and other “girlie” things for the girls to play with. Even at the center that I work at, the owner’s husband told one little boy in my class to “take off the dress because he was a boy and not a girl and little boys do not wear girl’s clothes.” I was confused because I thought we were supposed to let children play freely and with their imagination. As educators we should “not allow teasing about “not acting like a [girl/boy]”. To bully a child into acting as she or he is “supposed” to regarding gender roles. Work with children to create and live the classroom rule “Everyone gets to be different! Everyone is safe here.” (Derman-Sparks & Edwards, 2010, p. 98). The safety, education and self-expression should be the ultimate goal.

In my response to those that believe that early childhood centers should avoid the inclusion of books depicting gay or lesbian individuals such as same-sex partnered families, I would say that they are wrong. I believe that early childhood centers should have books with stories and pictures with gay or lesbian families because they may have a DaddyPapaandMe-298x300child or children in their center that has this type of family. Every child and their family should be represented throughout the classroom to help them feel welcome. What better way to teach children about the different types of families than through books? If we do not teach our children or incorporate books into the classroom how will they be able to know that the family that they are living in is accepted and they will not be picked on because their parents are gay or lesbian? Sanders and Mathis (2013) states that “Classroom discussion must include talking about LGBT themes; if gendernot, silence regarding LGBT characters or themes in a text only reinforces the idea that homosexuality should be kept hidden” (p.4). Homosexuality should be discussed in reading such books as Mommy, Mama, and Me and Daddy, Papa, and Me to give the children a deeper understanding on their developmental level as to what a gay and lesbian family consist of. No matter what type of family our children are raised in, it should not affect us as educators to put our bias to the side. It is best to teacher the children now because sooner later they will meet a child whose family is not like theirs in that they may have a mommy and daddy while the other child might have two daddies or two mommies. If we include the books in our daily conversations, it would not be new to the children if there was a student and their family to come to the center whose family is of the LGBT community.

I am not going to sit here and tell a lie. I have many times used homophobic terms such as “fag,” “homo,” “gay,” “sissy,” “tom boy,” and “lesbo” plenty of times in my life. Sometimes in playing with my husband and wrestling and if he would hit me I would call him a “punk faggot” or I would even call him “gay.” This was the way that we played and Ihomo2 meant no harm by it. Then I heard my son who was about three at the time say the same exact words and I realized then that this is not what I wanted my son to hear. I used the Stop-Homophobiaword out of context and meant no harm by them but when I heard it from the mouth of my son I felt offended after I heard him say it to another child. We have to be careful as to what we say around children because they are like sponges and soak everything up. Saying these words can have a negative influence on all children because they would in return say the words that they hear and think nothing of it. Derman-Sparks and Edwards (2010) mentions that “such slurs reflect biases against people who are gay or lesbian; however even teasing another child as being “girlie” or “acting like a boy” are hurtful. Young children may not understand the full significance of the words but do know they are put-downs” (p. 99).

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References

Derman-Sparks, L., & Olsen Edwards, J. (2010). Anti-bias education for young children and ourselves. Washington, DC: NAEYC.

Sanders, A. M., & Mathis, J. B. (2013). Gay and Lesbian Literature in the Classroom: Can Gay Themes Overcome Heteronormativity? Journal of Praxis in Multicultural Education, 7(1). doi:10.9741/2161-2978.1067

 

Farewell and Thank You!

The closure to another course… EDUC 6165goodbye quotes for friends (1)

At this time I would like to take a moment and reflect on the knowledge that I have gained collabover the past eight weeks. It was a wonderful and enlightening experience in learning about the different effective means of education, collaboration strategies, and listening styles and they will be beneficial to me as I continue to come in contact and work with families, young children, and colleagues in my future endeavors.

I am forever grateful to all of my colleagues for having such a great impact on my personal and professional growth. I appreciate their knowledge, wisdom, and experiences that theyrtr4c0uz have brought to this course, and I hope that we can continue to keep in touch as we continue our educational and professional journey at Walden University and thereafter. Hopefully we can keep in contact through email, blogs, and of course Facebook.

I would also like to take the time out to thank my colleagues for their positive feedback to my discussions and blog posts. It has been a pleasure to work, learn, and grow with all of you. Prayers to you as you embark on your next journey in life and I pray nothing but the best for you.

 

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Email: deemonee1016@gmail.com

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Adjourning

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Being part of an effective team or is an inspiring experience that expressively adds to an individual’s growth. At the end of every positive group involvement, it is hard to let go and move on as we say good-bye to the members with which we have formed bonds and established contented practices. This stage is called the “Adjourning Stage” (Abudi, 2010; O’Hair, Wiemann, Mullin, & Teven, 2015). The adjourning stage provides the participants with an opportunity to reflect on the overall performance of the team. Therefore, it is a vital phase in which the team members are allowed to assess their strong suits and weaknesses, note the best practices, and consider the ones that need to be further developed in future events.

The group that I found hardest to leave was a group of co-workers that I worked with a couple of years ago. The difficulty in adjourning was related to the relationship I have established with the team members. We were 4 people, built strong bonds and we became a family and were like sisters. We worked together as a team and we had a bond that was like no other. We met often and we collaborated with one another to create lesson plans, art activities, holiday parties, and to create spirit week. We alternated months to decorate the hallway and did many other things together. With time, we were able to build on each other’s assets and circulated the rolesteam-development consequently. From creative brainstorming to visualizing the overall project, lesson plans and crafts, we were vastly stirred and openly devoted to accomplishing our goals. Because the team had clear established norms, it was very normal and straightforward to perform under these situations.

Slowly our group was coming to an end because of different job offers, new classroom assignments or being laid off. We exchanged numbers with one another to keep in contact with. We said our see you later because we did not like to say good bye because 2385that seem like it meant leaving forever, so instead we said see you later. O’ Hair et al (2015) mentions that “members may opt out to maintain friendships even if they will no longer be working together” (p.249). Even though we all have embarked on different career paths, we still keep in contact with one another. Occasionally we link up for lunch, dinner or go out to just talk and let our hair down.

My group experiences at Walden has been different than all the other team experiences I have been part of. For the simple fact that this is an online course and my other groups have met face to face and I had a tangible connection with them. Although we are online we have still have established a great relationship with one another through our blogs and 6r6ycj5vb0i1zhmqdiscussions.  I believe that adjourning from my Walden colleague group will involve apprehending lessons learned, as we share our hopes and goals for the future (Abudi, 2010). Adjourning is essential to teams and groups because it allows everyone to converse about the task or vision that was completed and recap the situations they may have faced.  And in some cases there are lasting relationships built.  Adjournment is a merriment of what was achieved.
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References

Abudi, G. (2010). The five stages of team development: A case study. Retrieved from http://www.projectsmart.co.uk/the-five-stages-of-team-development-a-case-study.html

O’Hair, D., Wiemann, M., Mullin, D. I., & Teven, J.  (2015). Real communication (3rd. ed). New York: Bedford/St. Martin’s.

Conflict and Communication

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Poor communication often leads to conflict, which, unresolved can provoke various problems. Within the workplace, it is imperative to keep communication channels open with other individuals, because failing to communicate effectively creates an uncertain climate, in which communicators become averse to make attempts to resolve an issue, which causes it to amplify (O’Hair, Wiemann, Mullin, & Teven, 2015).

On my job, majority of the time I get into it with the owner’s husband. The funny thing about this situation is that my bosses are my godparents. Whenever he is having a bad day he takes it out on the staff. One day he is fine and the next day he is fussing over nothing. On my job we are not allowed to have our cellphones and they keep them locked up in the office. Well I said to him that it was not fair and that they do not pay my cellphone and that I have a son who is in school and if they need to call they will not be able to reach me. He then says to me then you need to give them your work number so they can call and talk to you hear. I tried that and when they called he told them that I could not come to the conflict2phone because I was in my class busy at the time. So when I found out that they had called I was mad because I said why would you tell me to give them my work number if I cannot call? I was really mad because this was a time where another student had hurt my son and made him bleed and they were calling to let me know. I was mad and I was yelling that it did not make sense that I could not have my phone and that this was the only place that I have worked to that took my phone away and give it to me on my lunch and when I get ready to go home. Needless to say I did not like this idea neither did my co-workers.

Another encounter I had is with one of the co-workers that I work with. She always thinks that she knows everything and that she always telling my parents what their child has done in my room. Or if a parent asks her how was their child’s day she says I do not know because I am not back there and I keep my door closed. I told her that you are to never tell a parent that you do not know what is going on with their child. I told her that she should have said that their child’s teacher was gone for the day and that they could speak with me the next day. She did not like that and she started saying out loud that she hates having conflicther class in the front because everybody always fussing at her about something. She went on and on about I can tell the parents whatever I want to because I do not know what is going on in your room because I stay in my room with my door closed. She got so mad to the point she was going to walk out the door because she did not like when someone fussed at her. I was just trying to let her know that she could talk to parents better than what she did. We want families to trust us with their child and ensure that they are safe in our care.

In both conflicts I could have handled each situation better than what I did. In learning what I have read from the resources I could have been a little more compassionate and empathetic to the owner’s husband. They could have held a staff meeting that would allowmeeting-152506_960_720 us, the employees to voice our opinion about the cellphone situation. Had I been more compassionate or empathetic towards him I would have known that the reason why he was so uptight was that he had a lot going on at the time and he had deadlines that he had to meet and things he had to get fix before the week was out. Now that I know from the readings I will be able to handle situations a lot better.

2 Helpful Strategies

  1. Use the 3R’s to help defuse a conflict situation- Call a staff meeting if there is a problem between the employer and employee or employee and employee. Calling a staff meeting will allow each person to have a respectful interaction by embracing 3rsand acknowledging the situation at hand. Through reciprocal interactions each individual will be heard equally. In being responsive each person will have an opportunity to look within themselves to see how they view things and voice their opinions on how to make things better (Corso, 2007). In using this at the staff meeting, everyone will be heard and the situation can be rectified and handled before things get worse than what they already escalated to.
  2. Stop, Look, Listen- This is a technique that takes you “to the balcony or a mental place of calm and perspective” that is provided from The Third Side (n.d.). It allows conflict3you to see the situation from a different perspective and “keep your eyes on what is truly important” (The Third Side, n.d.). The steps are as follow:

Stop

  •   Take time to prepare
  •   Take a time out
  •   Count to 10
  •   Take a deep breath
  •   Remember “Everything starts by stopping”

Look

  •   Look inside yourself – look at your natural reaction to take sides, ignore and escape.
  •   Name your emotions. Have your emotions (rather than be them)

Listen

  •   Hear your feelings out so you don’t have to act them out
  •   Listen to understand
  •   Use a friend or colleague as your ‘balcony’.

 

References

Corso, R. M. (2007). Practices for enhancing children’s social-emotional development and preventing challenging behavior. Gifted Child Today, 30(3), 51–56. Retrieved from http://ezp.waldenulibrary.org/login?url=http://proquest.umi.com.ezp.waldenulibrary.org/pqdweb?did=1303084331&sid=1&Fmt=4&clientId=70192&RQT=309&VName=PQD

O’Hair, D., Wiemann, M., Mullin, D. I., & Teven, J.  (2015). Real communication (3rd. ed). New York: Bedford/St. Martin’s.

The Third Side. (n.d.). The third side. Retrieved from http://www.thirdside.org/

Who Am I as a Communicator?

On this week we were to assess ourselves as well as have two other people to assess us to see how we are as a communicator. The measures of evaluation were Communication Anxiety Inventory, and Verbal Aggressiveness Scale (Rubin, Palmgreen, & Sypher, 2009). What amazes me is that after I looked at the communication anxiety assessment we all gave me a different category. I find that it is very hard for me to speak in front of small or large groups of people. I begin to panic, my palms seat bad, my head feels like it is about to explode and feel hot, my ears start ringing, and my heart starts to beat fast. I do not know why I cannot speak in front of people when the funny thing is I took a public speaking class. The two people that assessed me as well felt that I communicate okay around others and that they could not tell that I was nervous or anything. One thing about me is when I am nervous I tend to joke around a lot and laugh to keep myself from panicking or crying. I was never one to have high self-esteem because I always downed myself and never thought that I was good enough to do anything. Even now when I cannot speak in front of people I feel that I am less than others. O’Hair, Wiemann, Mullin, and Teven (2015) states that “some people have low self-esteem, or a poor view of themselves, because they lack accurate information about themselves or they mistrust the knowledge they do possess” (p. 48). A similarity that I found was that my co-worker and I had the same score for the verbal aggressiveness.  If I get in an argument with a person, I do not attack their character or them, but I do attack the problem at hand and let my point be heard. My friend rated me as a significant because she let he previous schema about me from our elementary and middle school years cloud her judgment as to who I am today as a mother and an early childhood educator. Who I was then is definitely not who I am now.

My results from both assessments from myself and two others are as follow:

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How I See Myself

Score: 60 Elevated

The range of scores indicates that you feel uncomfortable in several communication contexts. You may want to look back through the test and determine which one are most anxious for you.

T. Felton (Co-Worker)

Score: 49 Moderate

You score indicates that you feel somewhat concerned about a number of communication contexts, but probably not all. This mid-point level of communication anxiety is what we call, “situational”.

 

L. Thomas (Friend)

Score: 46 Mild

You report that you feel a bit uneasy in some communication situations and somewhat more confident in other contexts. Communication does not seem to be something you worry a great deal about.

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Verbal Aggressiveness

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Myself

Score: 63 Moderate

You maintain a good balance between respect and consideration for others’ viewpoints and the ability to argue fairly by attacking the facts of a position rather than the person holding the position.

 

T. Felton

Score: 63 Moderate

You maintain a good balance between respect and consideration for others’ viewpoints and the ability to argue fairly by attacking the facts of a position rather than the person holding the position.

 

L. Thomas

Score: 73 Significant

With little provocation, you might cross the line from” argumentativeness”, which attacks a person’s position or statements, and verbal aggression, which involves personal attacks and can be hurtful to the listener.

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The two insights that I would like to share with you this week are:

  1. Asserting Edwards (1990), “Your self-concept powerfully shapes your communication with others. It can affect what you think of other people, because your perception of others is related to how you think of yourself” (as cited in O’Hair et al., 2015, p.47).

 

  1. No matter where you are at in your life, know that it is okay to be you and to be who you are. Stay true to yourself and if people cannot accept you for who you are, then maybe they were not meant to be in your life. Do not go around trying to compare yourself to others because in the end it may cause you unhappiness.

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References

Rubin, R. B., Palmgreen, P., & Sypher, H. E. (Eds.) (2009). Communication research measures: A sourcebook. “Communication Anxiety Inventory” New York: Routledge.

Rubin, R. B., Palmgreen, P., & Sypher, H. E. (Eds.) (2009). Communication research measures: A sourcebook. “Verbal Aggressiveness Scale” New York: Routledge.

O’Hair, D., Wiemann, M., Mullin, D. I., & Teven, J.  (2015). Real communication (3rd. ed). New York: Bedford/St. Martin’s.

Communication and Culture

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On this week we were asked:

  • Do you find yourself communicating differently with people from different groups and cultures?
  • If yes, in what ways do you communicate differently.

As I look back and think of the different people who I talk to, I do find myself communicating differently to people of different groups and cultures. I know that when I am around my biological siblings, I can be crazy and energetic self and talk the way I want to talk. I can be myself around them and not feel guilty. I am one that does not like a lot of swearing and smoking around me and my family knows that and they do not do them things around me and if they  slip and curse they hurry up and apologize. I tell them that it is okay and that it is their mouth and that I cannot tell them what they can and cannot say but they respect me and my Christian values to apologize. I am more comfortable and relaxed because I am around people who knows who I am as a person. When I am around aunt rosemy church family, I am more calm and mellow and we talk about God and how good he is, I help clean the church, I watch how I talk with my pastor and first lady who also happens to be my aunt and uncle through marriage. Although they are my relatives, I look to them as my spiritual leaders first then my relatives. When talking to my pastor I can talk to him about anything and know that he will keep it to himself. I speak to him in humbleness and truth.

I am comfortable in communicating with everyone no matter what race, gender, ethnicity, culture, religion, sexual orientation or age. I love to talk and I love to meet and greet new people. I do not communicate with families from other countries due to the fact the majority of our families are African-American. Even when I speak with those who speak Spanish, I am attentive and try to understand what they are talking about as they are talking in English. Sometimes they get so caught up that they start speaking in Spanish cultureand then I get lost because I do not understand what they are saying. I do not stop them because eventually they will realize that I am lost by my nonverbal cues such as facial expressions and body language.

In learning about the components of positive intercultural communication this week has encouraged me to adapt three strategies that will enhance my communication while interacting with people from a different culture:

  •  Becoming other-oriented and following Milton Bennett’s Platinum Rule, “Do to 5145730others as they themselves would like to be treated”. What may be  appropriate and accepted in one culture may be not be acceptable in another. Therefore, I need to be mindful of my behavior and the language that I speak.
  •  To expand my cultural horizon and broaden my world view (Gonzales-Mena, 2010). I can accomplish that by researching and collecting information from those who come from different backgrounds and cultures, and by developing my knowledge of their values, beliefs, and customs. This will enable me to understand what is important to them and avoid miscommunication that results from overlooking cultural expectations (Beebe, Beebe, & Redmond, 2011).
  • Develop Motivation-In developing motivation I will be able to become a competent communicator through learning and improving on how to communicate. “Developing strategies to appreciate others who are different from you may help you appreciate different cultural approaches to communications and relationships” (Beebe et al., 2015, p. 104).

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References

Beebe, S. A., Beebe, S. J., & Redmond, M. V. (2011). Interpersonal communication: Relating to others (6th ed.). Boston, MA: Allyn & Bacon.

Gonzalez-Mena, J. (2010). 50 strategies for communicating and working with diverse families. Upper Saddle River, NJ: Pearson Education, Inc. “Understanding and Appreciating Cultural  Differences”